Thursday, October 6, 2011

What to do when people criticize and mock you



By Christina Chartomatsidis

Everyone who is destined to succeed in life will at some time be the subject of mockery or criticism. If you are now facing this type of abuse from people, either in your personal circle or at work, it’s valuable insight to know exactly why it’s happening so you can deal with it wisely.

Mockery and criticism is a good sign

When people mock, criticise and laugh in your face know that you are on the road to success. Josef von Sternberg once quoted “the only way to succeed is to make others hate you.” In reality, the cruel behaviour they throw at you is indicative that you are doing well in life or that you’re disheartening them in some way. If that was not the case, they would not bother with you! It is that you are a personal threat to them that propels them to hunt you down.

If you look at the earthly life of Jesus, he was constantly harassed by the Pharisees. They were hunting Him down, publicly insulting Him and looking for an opportunity to kill Him because they were threatened and jealous of His power and influence over people.

Hold your head up high

Refuse to see such people as big, whilst feeling small within. Thinking you’re their victim will do nothing but put you in a powerless position. These types of people are too cowardly to venture out of their comfort zones and allow their fears to keep them from chasing their dreams.

The only objective mockers and critics have is to stop you from moving to greatness. So endure the humiliation of mockery and criticism. Your job is rise above it and dare to do what is right in fulfilling your destiny.

Play deaf and blind

Don’t hear the criticism. Don’t focus on the disapproving looks of others. Reproaches should pass by you without a care. Be as stubborn as a mule; the mule is a stubborn self centred animal who is only concerned with his own interests.

Don’t try to prove yourself to a small fry!

Don’t waste your energy in trying to prove yourself to annoying negative people who constantly undermine your efforts. Instead focus your eyes on leaping to the top and gaining the support of the those who can help you on your journey.

Thrive on their negativity

When others tell you that you can’t do this, you can’t do that or that you’re a loser – use their negative energy plus the negative energy you feel regarding the mockery and criticism to push you to create an emotion explosive enough to support and realise your dreams. As the well know saying tells us; success is the sweetest revenge!

Expose and eliminate

When people mock and criticise you to your face, be privileged to know where they stand. And as for those who do it behind your back, be vigilant. An enemy un-confronted becomes stronger, so discern this type of person and dispose of them as soon as you can. If you have no choice but to be exposed to such people, kill off the relationship or develop ways of avoiding them.

Be unstoppable

Finally remember that mockery and criticism cannot stop an idea or a dream that will succeed. Jesus wasn't stopped by the Pharisees, so emulate His example. Your job is to do ignore these people, partner with God and do what you have to do by ruthlessly pursuing your objectives. As Baltasa quoted “Be content to act and leave the talking to others.”

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